I Will Not Stay Silent

  Three years ago today, my dad took his own life. I will not stay silent about it. Here’s why: That is a post I made in a closed Facebook group for people with ACOA trauma (adult children of alcoholics – yes, it’s a “thing”). I had joined the group just two days before – the…

Ten Years of Unpacking

March 21, 2008:  I knew the call would come. I’d been bracing myself for it all morning. Tense and rigid, as if that would somehow protect me. “You sent the police to the house?! You BITCH! Like you haven’t caused enough of a shit storm already?!” I lost track of what else was said and…

Present, Not Perfect: Eulogy and Letter to My Dad

Here is what I know:  On September 20, 2014, after struggling with ever-worsening pain and addiction, my dad took his own life. Here is what I don’t know:  Why he thought this was the only solution. The following eulogy, written by me, was graciously delivered by Rev. Carl Gnewuch during my dad’s memorial service at Prince of…